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Apparently, there are boyfriends in this world who turn to the almighty Google to ask questions like these. I have noticed this coming in several times and one of my old post was mentioned. So, let’s say you have a girlfriend and after some years, she got comfy and started eating and forgetting her figure. Then, what can you do?
Well, I certainly don’t want to be in that girlfriend’s shoes where the boyfriend needs to ask Google! LOL, can’t they find some other nicer and gentler way about this?
Here’s what one guy asked. He is a personal trainer and wants to know if she is exercising enough :
Let me re-ask this question, but re-phrased because it was totally mis-interpreted:
My girlfriend WANTS to lose weight and asked my for help. So I’ve forced (i.e. SET UP HER SCHEDULE) so that she go 3 days / week and do at minimum 45 minutes of cardio per workout WITH ME as a personal trainer.
Now my question for you DONKS:
IS THIS ENOUGH OR SHOULD I FORCE THIS FAT GIRLFRIEND OF MINE TO DO MORE?
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you are pathetic.
What’s a donk?
That sounds good as long as you go with her. Don’t cut all of her favorite foods out of her diet, but stick it out with her and be her example. And check under the mattress for candybars. You’d be surprised what a big fat fatty will think she can hide!
Perhaps it would be better if you were to force some depth into your shallow personality. You have no right to force her to do anything. If she wants to lose weight, she will.
I assume that your lady’s happiness and personal wellbeing is more important than her looks, so I suggest you stop forcing her to do anything. Be supportive of her endeavors, but the choice to exercise and eat healthy is hers, not yours. I also suggest you stop calling her fat. Otherwise, she’ll kick you to the curb and find a man who treats her like a lady and tells her, ‘honey, i love you, inside and out, no matter what you look like.’
I’m not sure what ‘donk’ means, but I prefer being called Shuttergirl in this forum.
it’s great that you are helping her out. and she has you to do it with so that is a plus! this hould motivate her to get started. on the other hand, you should let her get comfortable with this schedule first. just keep encouraging her to workout with you and help her how ever you can. i’m pretty sure after her stamina for workingout has gotten up to speed with yours, then the both of you can change the workout to something more aggressive. good luck with it all and please don’t call her fat, not to her face anyway.
hellllooooo…..Ok…repeat after me….I am a loser….she deserves better……good boy….now scram….
Get used to the fat.
um you could start by not ruining her self esteem. you shouldn’t FORCE her to do anything. if she wants to that’s different. she’ll get a lot further with losing weight if you are supportive instead of insulting her. and not just exercise helps lose weight. eating three balanced meals a day will increase metabolism along with making healthier eating choices. weight training helps to build muscle and tone the body. it sounds like she needs to dump you if you run around calling her fat. are you in loe with her or her body that she had?
Is there a chance that she’s trying to work out to get you to work out more? Have you gained weight lately?
first of all thats just mean to say that not the fat part but how u said. just let her do wat she thinks is right.
Well, you shouldn’t say “forced” her but you’re encouraging her by helping her with her work-out schedule and working out with her.
You can’t make it a prison sentence. You should probably start less amount of time and work up to 45 min. If it’s a sentence she’s going to lose interest fast (been there, done that). As she starts to feel better and hopefully enjoy the type of cardio workout you’ve chosen together then she’ll increase duration and days on her own. You don’t want her to injure herself either by over-exercising. Slow and steady will win the race.
As well as the cardio, she’ll possibly need to change her eating as well. Fewer calories in and more exercise.
Good luck to her.
If she wants to lose weight, congrats to you for wanting to give her support. She’ll need it; losing weight is a long and extremely trying process. There are no quick results. Keep in mind that you will need to adjust your diet, too — don’t have bags of chips and sweets around the house. If you both eat healthy and train together you’ll both get benefits.
Well If you cook and so the groshrey shopin… lol You can start getting her to slowly get off the fats food and make her eat Healthier and her body will slow ajust to the changes and she will never get fat and eat Healthier foods and it will help her for life. Once your body get ajusted to healer Healthierfoods and later on when she comes to eat those sweets she hasnt had in months she will not like the taste and eat stay to eating healthy foods. Dieting wont help. ALl i dose is stick with you for a month and your body cannot handle the pressure of it.
The most important thing is to figure out what motivates her to do what she does. If she is not motivated to achieve what you want, she will not tolerate your leadership for long.
Maybe she doesn’t know, but it is very important that she figures that out, and that is something you can help with by listening to her and not judging her. It will probably be necessary to continue this dialogue indefinitely, and you may want help to get started, such as a relationship counselor.
If it isn’t important enough to discuss her feelings with her, you will probably not have enough patience to help her succeed. And then you will be miserable in your relationship. Life is too short for that.
If she is very motivated, I would recommend an excellent book on nutrition by Paul Pitchford called Healing with Whole Foods.
Never tell to him that she is fat man…
Exercise is not all, the most important is the food mate.
Everybody thinks that eating any salad at night, they will be losing weight, it isnt true.
At night, if you want to lose weight you have to eat proteings(eggs) and fats (olive oil), i promise you, that she will lose in 1 month weight.
You can search this diet in google, i hope to be usefull for you. I use this diet, and i lost a few KG(i dont now what do you use for weight)
Dont worry about people coments, everybody is a defender of the human rights when the problem is in other person.
Greetings from Spain !!
you are the one that said im making up my story…when you have this problem…no buddy…my real life are your dreams…
Here you go bro….I don’t know what your girl looks like now but if she follows this routine she’s gonna be smokin’ hot in about 2 months give or take a couple of weeks. Unless of course she’s really really fat, then your screwed. If that is the case it will take a lot longer.
Diet: Water, big glass first thing in the morning everyday.
5-6 small meals spaced 2-3 hours apart 250-300 calories per meal. Incorporate fiber in her breakfast,(oatmeal, 100% whole wheat or 100% whole grain bread, raisin bran etc). The rest of the meals should be balanced, proteins, carbs, good fats. DIET HAS TO BE FOLLOWED FOR YOUR FAT GIRLFRIEND TO LOSE WEIGHT. Eat clean foods (fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean meats). Have her drink AT LEAST 100 ounces of water a day. Eating healthy sucks, but it works. The main goal here is for her to burn more calories than she is taking in.
Workout: What you have here doing now is great! In addition to that cardio she has to strength train. Cardio alone will help her lose weight but 3 days a week of strength training and 3 days a week of cardio will transform her body a lot faster. I mean a whole hell of a lot faster. Mon-Wed-Fri strength train, Tues-Wed-Thurs cardio. She has to strength train the entire body, Upper body, mid section, and lower body. The more muscle her body develops the more calories her body will burn at rest. Believe it! Strength train with intensity. This is very important. In other words go to the gym or where ever it is you guys workout and knock that shit out! Don’t be talkin, and standing around. Get in there and tear it up. Finally, remember your girlfriend is a girl. Be supportive, helpful, and encouraging. With all that said don’t take my word for it. Look it up. Plenty of info on the net. Knowledge is power. I do know from personal experience that this will work for losing weight. Good luck to you two.
heavy women are beautiful.
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independent of this situation, I think if two people love eachother, they should voice their concerns. A concern about weight gain is not always a selfish one.
weight gain has serious long term effects. weight gain will effect lifestyle, life quality, and ultimately life duration.
I fail to understand how someone’s concern for their mate’s health and happiness is selfish.
As to this man, he is a personal trainer, he knows whether or not what he has done is enough.
I agree that heavy women are beautiful, but what are the long term effects? Is being heavy now worth the twenty, thrity, even forty years I may lose with my loved ones?
I think it would be safe to say that a person who ignores this concern of their mate is the selfish one. The heavy person’s comfort in laziness has preference over the most precious gift they have to their mate, time.
This man is misunderstood I think. Nobody can force anyone to do anything, as a personal trainer, he knows this.
He must have asked this question on the internet because he knew someone would answer. Many did.
Perhaps he used the word “fat”, to illustrate her size. Again, as a personal trainer he must have experience with many body types and people’s reactions to the labels we give those body types.
bitch shut up and lose weight for ya man like u should
She should just dump your insecure butt and then go eat some ice cream with her friends.
For all of you that think that him calling her fat is wrong, lets at least look at the obvious here. It’s the internet and we can call things as we see them.
He obviously cares about her enough to try to help, and instead of letting her hate herself later on he’s trying to prevent it. Being less attracted to somebody leads to several other relationship problems that most times are very hard to get through. And dealing with them takes much more work than any amount of time you’re going to spend in a gym. Exercise is the number 1 way to improve your health both mentally and physically, and everyone knows this. The only reason the majority of you are telling him he’s a worthless boyfriend is because most of you are too lazy to workout yourselves. Maybe you’ve even been dumped or rejected. Not excercising is probably the least healthy thing you can do to yourself short of drugs and suck starting a shotgun. And unhealthy ladies and gentlemen is unattractive. The writer of this original post shouldn’t have to change the standards he entered the relationship with. And despite your overly sensitive feelings on a post on the internet you should all be jealous of a guy like him. It’s more likely people just give up. Our fine man has actually taken an active part in trying to better the one he loves. And if she doesn’t appreciate it then he deserves better.
There may be a good reason for being straight with erh and telling her she has gotten fat. I had it drilled into me that “it’s what’s inside that counts.” My wife was a little on the plump side when we met, but after we got engaged she started putting on some weight. I didn’t say anything. After we got married, she really started to overeat and she has ballooned to 280 pounds. I think that perhaps I should have said something earlier, even if it hurt her at the time. She is happy, but so heavy that she stuggles to lift herself up from a low seat. She obviously knows that she is fat, but it doesn’t seem to bother her. She says she is lucky to be married to aman who loves her as she is, and I do, but maybe if I had given her some tough love she would not be this huge.
i bet all you women are fat i have a girlfriend that is gaining weight and it makes me sad because i doo love her but im getting less and less attracted toi her. its different for men. me not being attracted to her is killing me because she wants to know why im not interested and i cant say cuz ur fat
Can’t believe everyone calling people shallow are all females. Get sure of one thing: Men are visual. This is why PORNOGRAPHY is the number one industry in the world for making money.. and yes there ARE ‘fatty’ porno’s, most of which is NOT used to satisfy sexual fantasies, but rather to laugh with friends.
There is one basic true fact: If a man cannot get an erection, sex will NOT occur without drugs (and face it ladies, how many of you would complain and be hurt knowing your man had to take drugs to get hard for you?).
So let’s add another fact: YOU cannot change a ‘fat woman’, and if you wish to say you have no right to try you would be right also. So here is what it breaks down into:
1) You have NO right to tell her she is unacceptable.
2) You DO have the right to stay with her, or to leave.
So heavy gals, wouldn’t you rather they discussed with you, rather than leave without saying why? Or getting caught with the porn? Worse yet getting caught with your girlfriend or another gal?
Let’s get real and realize sex wont happen without drugs if the man isn’t attracted to his girlfriend; sorry it’s human nature not something I made up.
fat women are gross. unless it is a thyroid disorder, whats the excuse of being gross? If your in a relationship, your man most likely takes you out, treats you well, makes nice comments no matter what. All you have to do is hit the gym or eat healthy, go for walks and STOP BEING LAZY!!!!! Tomorrow never comes. Get active today. I promise, it makes for a better relationship
I am an obese girl. I am trying to lose weight, and reading posts like this to keep myself on the right track. I feel bad about myself in other ways though. My boyfriend has made fun of my breast, butt, hair, etc. So, I think part of my issue is that if I do lose the weight it won’t be good enough and I’ll feel worse. I’m still going to, but I’m sad that you can’t be loved the way you are:P If it was the other way around it wouldn’t matter, I guess it’s different for men…
This seems to be a battle of the sexes with the women accusing men of being shallow and the men just being honest about wanting a sexy gf/wife. I’m a guy and I don’t understand why it’s shallow to want a hot gf. The women say men should love them for who they are. Isn’t physical appearance also part of a person? Attraction is important in any romantic relationship otherwise it would become platonic.
i totally agree with myfriendscallmedragon.
When you meet a person at the first place you like him or her because of the physical aparence. Its the first thing that atracts a human to a human and after knowing her or him better than you get to discover the personallity and the characteristics of that person for which you might want a realtion with him or her. There is nothing wrong for a man to get revolved for this matter. Its true men are visual and thats how nature have made us accept it or not. A woman should take care about her self 1 for her health and 2 for a litle respect ot the relationship. If my gf will tell me im getting fat i would imeditaly do something about it and make her feel better.
Wy women find it inapropriate when a guy is asking her to do something about her aparance? at the end of the day thats wy he fell in love whith her , with the way how she looks and her wonderful personality. Its a combination of both and when you loose one than love stands on one feet. Im talking about young couples wich they have the possibility to do something and not about old people who already have accepted that nothing can be done.
That is just rediculas. Stop being so agressive! Having a fat girlfriend is a real problem. People are getting way to fat now days and having girls get fat because they are getting “comfortable” is rediculas.
Fat is not attractive and having fat girls get offended when bringing up the fact that they are cows is preposterous. You all want to be called beautiful when you look like an egg with legs (so you can continue eating massive amounts of fast food?). If she’s getting too fat break up with her and find a younger, skinnier chick!
Admittedly I didn’t have the time to read everyone’s comments. I only stumbled upon this forum/blog/whatever because I wondered if other people have problems with their girlfriend/wife which I was quite sure they would as men and women are very different creatures. They do things differently for reasons I will never understand.
For guys out there worried about their girlfriend getting fat. That is nothing but superficial. If you loved them their shape wouldn’t matter, they are indeed going to change shape with age and after children etc.
However, I differ from this as I am worried about my girlfriends health due to doing no exercise and eating unhealthily. The matter of weight or body shape has not much effect as I love my girlfriend what ever she looks like, and she is very stunning, slim and healthyish currently. I get concerned that she has no drive to do exercise and eat healthy. She actually has not much drive to do anything other than pray for extended periods of time or read the bible behind closed doors as anything around distracts her. I think the lack of exercise shows in her life with her lack of any energy to do things. I’ll try not to list too many bad points as I am sure I have many as well she could list about my self.
These things really affect how I see my future. I feel that I would become much less attracted to someone unhealthy and unfit than someone who was overweight but does regular exercise, lives a healthy life style and has energy. How can I picture myself with children and a wife that is simply too lazy and tired to actually enjoy this with me? Also, not to mention she needs to much time to herself to concentrate on religious beliefs in private to cope with children running around distracting her.
(May be when the other guys here write they are worried about their girlfriend getting fat, what they really mean is the same thing as I do but are uncomfortable speaking about marrige and thinking about commitment and children and this gets hidden behind superficially concentrating on the partners appearance and weight.)
Sorry about this long rant. I wonder if I could get a female perspective on this matter. Do women look at the same qualities in men and picture the future and see it simply not working? This is just for a curiosity point of view as I have no other friends who are women to discuss this with and I am always wanting to learn more about women without offending one.
Also, I don’t need any advice about communicating with my girlfriend. I will be doing this very shortly, it’s just that at this time of the month it is really not appropriate if I want to actually communicate if you know what I mean. I have no problems with expressing my concerns and how the fact she does not do any exercise and be healthy will cause me to be concerned about the future I see for us.
Met my girlfriend 15 months ago… gorgeous face..smoking hot bikini bod. 15 months later today..gorgeous face..beer gut flap that I kiss and lick on my way down to her pie.
She’s up 45lbs from her ideal weight of about 130lb for a 30yr old 5’6″ woman. She used to be very active up to her early 20′s; basketball, softball, cheerleading. She popped out a kid 8 years ago but had a C-section so everythings still tight as hell, no worries there.
When it warms up a little I’m gonna get her on the treadmill and doing some weight-training. We’re going to the beach again this summer and I want to make sure she doesn’t embarrass herself with stares from teenagers laughing at her belly flap hanging over her bikini bottoms. I will admit she had some female surgery 18 months ago where they cut through her abdominal wall..so I give her some slack as it does take a long time for that muscle tone to return.
Now don’t take me as being shallow. The fattie stuff bothered me at first but once I realized she’s actually gotten hornier since she’s put the extra 30-40lbs, I’ve been milking it ! (no pun intended, yeah right). She used to be squeamish about giving oral – I’d get 10 seconds at best before her mouth got “tired”. Now she’ll suck for a solid 4 or 5 minutes without needing a break. I love it ! I just put a big chocolate donut on my rod and she just lights up. Ha Ha just kidding about the donut.
I guess my point to the OP is if your girl decides to move to a 5-7000 calorie diet just get on board and budget out extra dollars for eating out and grocery shopping. Unless you’re a “Mans in Charge” kinda guy that grabs his woman by the arm and drags her around and has to give her a good slap every now and again, there’s not much you can do…
enjoy food together..some for favor..chocolate,cakes..at weekends..salad and healthy food can be yummy too.it just what way of cooking. stir fry is good..rice is good compare the size to your hand..meat and vegetable together make lose weight happily.