We know how hectic and how stressful it is to hold a huge wedding banquet. Sometimes, both sides of the families will start their bickering when they cannot see eye to eye on some of the wedding arrangements. At times, the bride’s relatives may want certain tradition while the groom’s side refuse to follow.

If you ask me, I will say go off on one of thosedestination weddings and have a small cosy wedding instead of a huge do. They have such lovely locations plus all the facilities including chapel to hold the wedding. After the wedding, you don’t even need to travel for the honeymoon because you are already on location.

The next time my son gets married, I will give him a check and ask him and his bride-to-be to get it done away from me. Saves me the trouble of dealing with my future in-laws. Muahahahar, such a good deal, isn’t it?

How does crystal candy, gold disposable wedding camera, love wine charms and other adorable and sweet items sound to you? Special, right? Those are some of the things you can find on the website of Truly Wedding Favors .

The moment I surf over while reviewing the site, I am already in love with some of these items. I wish I can get hold of a bunch of crystal candies because they make really good wedding gifts. I wonder if my nephew will be interested in them? He is getting married next year and giving these crystal candies is definitely very sweet as candies denote sweetness. What more the crystal will lasts a long time and everyone is going to remember his wedding favors.

I also found a cute, little, green pea pod which is the salt and pepper shaker. It is the cutest ever and will certainly get everyone to talk about it. I have never seen such adorable salt and pepper shaker before. Do take a look!

If you are looking for cheap wedding favors, you will most likely find them there. They have them for as cheap as a dollar a piece and you can also search for items according to the theme of your wedding.

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I just had a chit chat session with my sister and she told me my other sister is all excited about her son getting married next year. However, my nephew still hasn’t finalised his wedding plans and did not confirm where he is going to hold it. Will it be in our own country or in the bride’s country?

Well, if I am my sister, I will just shake leg and let my son does whatever he likes. However, it is different with my brother-in-law because he is the eldest son and this nephew who is getting married will be the first to get married in his generation, i.e. the first amongst all his cousins. So, my brother-in-law wants a grand wedding. I bet if he has his ways, he is going to make it the grandest wedding of all because of the ‘first’ factor. I am sure they are going to need all the fancy groomsmen gift like these nice cuff links. I wonder if they are going to give away cuff links to all the uncles and male cousins?

I think the best way to avoid wedding jitters is to not to have a ceremony. Chinese weddings especially have so much ceremonies, it will make you think twice. Before you are even married, there are rules and regulations to drive you nuts. It is a very old feudal thing, I believe. The bride is made to feel like she is going to be sold to the groom. There are dowry involved. Things to bring to the groom and etc etc.

So, I was smart that I never bother with anything because I know I have short temper and I won’t stand any nonsence from either side of the families. Nah ah, no way am I going to subject myself to old traditions and stuffs like that. These aren’t going to help me out of deep shit if I get into trouble. So why bother following it?

The best thing about getting married is for the couple to just take it as another day. No big deal about it, sign some papers, get a nice dress and that’s that. Enough. No frills, keep the thrills to ourselves.

This is the photo that I mentioned I love most. It was taken by the professional photographer hired by my niece during her wedding.

In the Chinese customs, the daughter-in-law must kneel and offer tea to the parents-in-law. It is a sign of obedience, respect, honour and acceptance. I love the fusion of hands. I hope all the young brides and brides-to-be can realise the significance and importance of this gesture. We have gone into the home of this mighty woman whom we often referred as the MIL. One our wedding day, we had kneeled (in some cases) or bowed to her. So, is it any wonder that years down, we also have to have that humbleness?

Ah, well, my MIL is long gone, so it is easy for me to preach. Hehehe.

Finally, I got myself over to my sister’s house last night. I had been wanting to see the wedding photos taken by the professional photographer. I love to see those close-up shots of significance moments. These are some of the things I am not able to take because normally, I am not bold enough to squeeze in between hugs and kisses to capture shots like that.

I can’t share the photo here ‘cos I need to get my niece’s permission. But if you know me through my blog and wish to view these photos, do let me know. I can give you her Flickr account and you can view them. I love the photos of the hands when she offered tea to her mother-in-law. You can see the age gaps from the hands and it is just so touching.

Do you know that when a newly wed wants to set up the matrimonial bed, they need to choose an auspicious date to do so? Normally, they will pick a time and date and the bride will go to the groom’s house to arrange the bed, her clothes and dressing table and etc. After that, the bed will be left untouched until the day she got married and sleep on it. Pretty big issue, ya?

For me, I couldn’t even afford a bed when I got married. We slept on the floor, in this rented low cost flat on some mattress. I think I bought a new set of bedsheets, though. Anyway, we had been living together all along and therefore, there is no suspense of the ‘first night’. Heh.

The bed will continue to hold a lot of taboos. Just yesterday, my housekeeper was suddenly called away because one of the house she does housekeeping needs her to change bed sheet. Hear this….this woman had not been able to get pregnant for 10 years. When she finally got pregnant, she dare not even change the bed sheet because old folks said that moving the bed when a woman is pregnant will cause miscarriage. So, this woman finally gave birth, brought the baby home and asked my housekeeper to go over to change the bed sheet that has been left unwashed for like, what? Six months maybe? Ewwsss..

Oh well, at least we are not expected to place a white sheet to prove our virginity like Memoirs of the the geisha. Hehehehe.